A Piece of Cake

I reached out to a few of my blogging friends to write some posts while Lindsey and I are away on our honeymoon. Today’s post comes from Sean, who gives us some great advice about marriage despite claiming he has no clue what he is talking about. Thanks Sean for the great post!

Josh is celebrating his wedding by asking me and several other bloggers to write guest posts here on Josh’s World. It’s really the least he could do. Seriously. He didn’t invite me to his wedding, so instead of writing himself, he wants me to write something about marriage. Really, he couldn’t have done any less. I better get a thank you note or a fantasy baseball championship or something. Anyway, let’s get started:

Despite being married for 11 years, I have no tips on how to have a successful marriage. I mean, similar values and opinions on really big things are important. If one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t, that could (and probably will) be a major issue down the road. Going back to the similar opinion thing, you can have a marriage between a Steelers fan and a Ravens fan as long as there’s some respect or at least some tolerance there (unlike this woman).

I read somewhere that money is the biggest reason for divorce. (The second biggest reason is one partner following Kim Kardashian obsessively while the other doesn’t. Nothing like writing a post about marriage and bringing up divorce, right?) Money is big. You’re likely going to put your finances together, so you need to talk about this stuff. Don’t go out and buy a new car without talking about this with your spouse. Unless, of course, you’ve already discussed something like this. (Yes, hon, you have $20K of disposable income to use however you’d like…as long as it’s not on prostitutes.) All of this about talking reminds me of something. Communication! Yes, communication is important not only for a marriage, but also in doing the trust fall properly.

With two young kids, I’m at a different stage in life from where Josh is now. The days when what to do on a Saturday was a major decision are long gone. Now it’s all about the kids. Priorities change as does your marriage. Not necessarily in a good way or a bad way, but it a different way. To go back to a sports analogy (Ravens suck!), when you get married, you become a team. Kids add to the team and change the dynamic. Instead of being teammates, you’re now the coach, player, statistician and medic.
As you can tell, I have no idea what I’m writing about. Love each other and make each other happy, and you’ll be fine.
So congratulations to Lindsey & Josh! Now, can you at least save me a piece of the wedding cake?